Accion de Gracias

After resigning myself to the fact that my family would be on our own for Thanksgiving, I got an email from William at the 11th hour asking if we’d join his holiday gathering.
The Universe provides! I was so excited!
Who’s William you ask? A total stranger. He’s got a blog. I’ve got a blog. We were bound to meet sooner or later. And I’m glad for it.
So when my son D puked first thing the morning of Thanksgiving, I was more saddened by the fact that we might have to cancel our new Thanksgiving plans than I was about my poor lad being sick. (I’m a great mom). But D seemed to recover by noon so we were good to go.

the view!!

the view!!

William’s Rincon house was lovely. Views, airy light, aromatic food, and other friendly ex-pats for us to meet.
But, schmoozing had to wait as when we arrived our kids stuck to us like barnacles. Scared barnacles. P whined and laid down on the floor. D insisted that we carry his 4 year old self around. I think they were ready to eat!

P made herself right at home

P made herself right at home

I couldn’t have asked for a more enjoyable holiday dinner. William and Jenn have great kids and friends. It was relaxing and fun to talk to them all.  Interesting to be around other people that view moving your family to places like Puerto Rico from their otherwise normal lives as a natural and easy thing to do. Well, easy is relative. They seem to be adventurous, life loving people like us. And that was good energy to be around.

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Ms. P and Mr. D loved their daughter Madison. And all the way home to Mayaguez P kept repeating, “Adios Madison”. Today D asked “When will we see Wisconsin again?” It took me a moment to realize he meant the girl Madison. HAHA 4 year olds crack me up.

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Kids finally relaxing and having a blast

 

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Parallelogram: Thanks Giving Away

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Lisa\Montreal

This is your first Thanksgiving away from Madison.  If you were still there, how would you celebrate?

Unless we were invited to someone else’s Thanksgiving, we would not celebrate on our own.  That’s a lot of turkey.  All our of friends were rooted in Wisconsin it seems, where we had just moved there from Bermuda two years’ prior.  Everyone we know would therefore likely participate in their own traditional family gathering.  My blog tells me last year we wrapped presents, went to Whole Foods and took a walk down by the icy shore of Lake Monona. (Thank god for my blog as memory-replacement.)  I’m certain we’d do the same this year.

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Will you celebrate this year in Montreal?

Canada does celebrate Thanksgiving, every second Monday in October since 1957, but in the same position as last year (recently moved) we went to Durga Puja instead of grocery shopping and taking a walk.

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For a few years, Thanksgiving meant going to my in-laws house where a big feast was prepared and consumed and finished off with a gorgeous cinnamon ice cream.  It was a long, lingering, comfortable day and I am grateful to have those memories.  As with everything transient, who knows what next year’s Thanksgiving will bring?

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Laura\Mayaguez

This is your first Thanksgiving away from Madison.  If you were still there, how would you celebrate?

We usually go to the Milwaukee area to my Mom’s house for one meal, then stuff our faces again at my Dad and Step-Mom’s.  I make the pies. It’s relaxing.  If the weather is nice we talk a walk, if not we play Scrabble.

Will you celebrate this year in Mayaguez?

A little.  Thanksgiving is a national holiday here too. D has a 5 day break, but I heard some of the public schools have all week off.  Turkey is king here too, with a few Puerto Rican sides thrown in.  I tried to schmooze my way into someone’s celebration but no one took the bate. The thought of just having T-day by ourselves bummed me out but we’ll make some hormone-free free-range chicken breasts (I couldn’t find boneless turkey), mashed potatoes, green bean casserole, and strawberry cream pie.

With the weather so warm, the spirit of the holiday season seems lost almost. I’ve had the kids make some Thanksgiving decorations to help us get in the mood.

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Over the weekend we night take a scenic drive, go to the beach, and hang out Christmas decorations on Sunday.

 

 

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3 months aqui

According to Dr. Karp babies have a “4th trimester” after being born. A time when they acclimate to the world. It feels like we’ve just finished our “4th trimester” as a family.

This week marks our three month anniversary of moving to Puerto Rico. When I stop to think about it, time has simultaneously gone slowly and quickly. Six months ago we made the decision to move! That seems like a long time ago.

If you are planning a major move to a place you don’t know very well, then you too will experience this time of transition.  It can suck at first. Really. But persevere and you too will feel more and more comfortable and like you belong. (hopefully!)

When I think back about these three months I’m proud. I’m happy with the connections we’ve made, the places we’ve already explored, and the routines we’ve established. All of these things are crucial to leading a balanced and happy life I think.

I get down on myself for not speaking Spanish better, but when I stop think about what I knew three months ago versus what I know now, I decide to pat myself on the back instead.

We know most of our neighbors, and have actually socialized with some. I’m planning on having a neighbor Christmas party in December. I feel like there are people we could call on should we need help. And that’s big.

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The neighbors over for supper

And I’m not nearly as scared as I was driving in the mountains.  Although, I consider every day that I don’t smash the side mirrors or scrap the side of the car a success.

Six months ago we owned a LOT more. It’s incredible to think about the transformation our family has undergone in these months. I’ve put together a collage of all the things we sold. Wow!

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Oddities and Amusings

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This guy was in our house. He was the size of my hand! We put him in a box and took him to the shore. After naming him “Pinchie” of course.

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Holy big back tire Batman. Goma grande!

 

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I can’t say I’ve ever seen this letter combination on a plate in the States. tee-hee I kid you not about a half mile later I saw “FUC” on a plate, AND “FUN” not long after that.

A guy parked his motorcycle outside the bakery/deli with the keys in the ignition while he went inside and...

A guy parked his motorcycle outside the bakery/deli with the keys in the ignition while he went inside and…

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….played the slots. On both machines.

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Parallelogram: English as a Second Language, UPDATE!

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Laura\Mayaguez

What have you been doing to practice your new language since you moved?

Listening to Pimsler audios but that didn’t usually work very well with screaming kids in the background. I have about eight apps on my phone to help learn Spanish but those only work if you actually remember to use them. I had ambitions to listen to the radio a lot and speak Spanish with everyone I saw.

None of that really happened a whole lot. But I have forced myself to speak Spanish to more and more people.

Have you been able to speak Spanish more easily with the locals?

A little. My vocabulary has been growing slowly – only about 3-4 new words a week (sometimes less) – but it helps. I still can only understand them if they speak much much slower than they normally do. When they speak I can pick up more and more but sometimes I’m still pretty lost.

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How has it been going for your spouse to learn the language?

Trevor has been a little better by using the apps on his phone. I catch him talking to himself and practicing new words once in a while ha ha Sometimes now he even understands written words that I don’t. He can recognize enough words to glance over the sports page in our local newspaper.

Have your kids learned the language at all? How was their progress?

I think my son understands quite a bit. Out of the four of us he is the one who is exposed to Spanish speakers the most just by going to school. He doesn’t use very many Spanish words when speaking with us but every once in a while I catch him singing a little song in Spanish. I ask him to sing it for me and of course he clams up. It hasn’t gotten to the point yet that he can tell me what people are saying when I don’t understand. But that will be a good day…haha

My daughter actually is testing out a lot of Spanish words. Sometimes Trevor and my mom can’t even understand her and I have to tell them what she’s saying. Right now she just picks up the words from me.

D at school

D at school

What are your plans for the future to help you learn more?

We hired a tutor! One of the parents of Mr. D’s classmates is an English professor at the local university. She hooked us up with one of her students to be a tutor to help us with our conversation and grammar skills. I think this is essential because is just no good for married couples if they want to stay happily married for one of them to teach another a language (or dancing for that matter; it’s the same.)

We now meet with Mildred twice a week at our house. At first I thought I would this would be very very awkward. I thought it would feel like I was paying her to be my friend and to come over and socialize with me, but she was very professional and very prepared and it ended up being great. I think will have her come around for a while. I secretly wish she could follow me around all day and tell me how to say everything I say in Spanish. Like a little Spanish echo over my shoulder. Now THAT wouldn’t be weird at all.

Mildred and Trevor

Mildred and Trevor

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Lisa\Montreal

What have you been doing to practice your new language since you moved?

Ha Ha Ha.

What?

I’ve been doing nothing formal to practice French; I just keep using the same broken phrases when out and about:

…le premiere fois ici! … (the first time here!)

…quelque choses pour les enfants?… (something for children?)

Oui. Je besoin d’un sac. (Yes. I need a bag.)

But all hope is not lost.  I’ve since remembered to say “DES sacs” (plural) when I have a lot of groceries, for example, things like that are coming back.  Also Arlo brings home library books from school and they are all in French.  We read these same books repeatedly so that gives me some solid practice.  Did you know Clifford is called Bertrand here? (Or maybe vice-versa.)

Previous Owner's Note

Previous Owner’s Note

Have you been able to speak French more easily with the locals?

I’d say it’s getting worse and that has to do with the now frigid temperature.  There are simply less people around and us who remain are in a big hurry to get someplace indoors.  Idle chit-cat seems to hibernate like everything else.

 How has it been going for your spouse to learn the language?

I don’t know how Kris has been doing to be honest, I think it’s been a while since he’s done the Duo Lingo app.

Have your kids learned the language at all? How was their progress?

 I was very heartened to learn just this morning that an acquaintance’s second grade daughter can read and write in both French and English (she attends the same bi-lingual school).  School doesn’t become governed until first grade here so the bi-lingual aspect is not strictly adhered to until then.  Arlo’s interest remains lukewarm.

What are your plans for the future to help you learn more?

I’ve got nothing honestly and I can blame it all on the weather.  Everything has changed now that there’s snow and ice on the ground – transportation, time, home organization — absolutely everything.  French will have to take le back burner for now.

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The stroller, like our bike, has been packed away for the season. And the walls close in …

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19 guys and 2 girls are in a bar…

My Mom was in town for a bit and Trevor and I took the opportunity to have a date.  An actual date!

I miss the Opus Lounge in Madison something fierce.  It was our favorite place to go for frou-frou drinks.

As happenstance would have it, I spotted a cocktail bar in downtown Mayaguez the very day of our date. Let’s go.

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The facebook directions were NOT correct.

Isola. Downtown Mayaguez. 19 guys inside and I doubled the female count just by walking in. I told the bartender to make me something fruity (he spoke English). He gave me their version of Sex on the Beach = Isola Sex. ok. ‘Twas yummy. We nabbed some dominoes on the bar and took the best seat in the house.

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A guy informed us that a domino tournament would be starting soon and the prize was a bottle of rum! Considering we didn’t even know the real rules of the game, we just nodded, smiled and said gracias.

The male/female count settled at 25 to 4 as the night eased on. I wanted to have another Isola Sex but nobody wanted to see a gringa stumble out (“Sure they do” said Trevor. huh.)

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You know it’s a hot date when you whip our your phones to Wiki “how to play dominoes”

We decided chicks don’t come here because they guys were all about the, “dude we could win a bottle of rum!” domino tournament.

I'm in for the rum!

I’m in for the rum!

$30 for 4 drinks and 3 little appetizers.  We’ll be back. When’s Mom’s next visit?

These crabby thingys were too crabby.

These crabby thingys were too crabby.

 

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Belonging

My life coach from many years ago taught me that to lead a balanced life we need to nurture different key aspects of ourselves in our environments: belonging, purpose, respect, security and acceptance.

Trevor and I had a chance to feed a few of these elements last week. Remember I went salsa dancing? I met some great people. They had to knock the swing outta my salsa, but simultaneously they were intrigued by the thought of learning to swing dance. They asked us to teach two classes to their dance troop.

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Not only was it fun for Trevor and I to get back into the teaching groove (we taught for Jumptown for 6 years but stopped in 2009), it was a chance to bring something to this new country of ours. A way to contribute to the new culture that is helping us grow in so many ways. It was a chance for us to give back, and help other people grow.

Acceptance.

They were so receptive, and eager that it was truly our pleasure to teach them. We even gave back our payment for the second class and donated it toward their club. They thought that we were being nice. It was so much more. They helped us feel like we were accepted.

IMG_1844Trevor used to coach skating several times a week, and since moving here he hasn’t coached once (Our son doesn’t count). He misses the aspects of giving back, feeling appreciated, and socialness.  Teaching dance satiated this social need for a little bit.  I know he’d like to do more teaching/contributing/sharing in some form or another.

Thank you dancers for giving us more than you know.

Funny side note: Trevor and I felt outta shape and old.  They wanted us to dance fast as they ALL whipped out their phones to record us.  whew! It was good to shake the dust off our lungs.

Here’s the dancers doing lindy basics after just two classes. Yay for Lindy in Puerto Rico!!

Incidentally, my blog post unknowingly coincided with this bloggers post: who knew?

http://wheresmybackpack.com/2014/11/14/travel-theme-belonging/

 

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Winter gardens

Everyone knows you plant seedlings for your veggie garden in early spring. You gotta keep in mind things like frost and freak snow falls in May.

Oh to be a northerner!

We had no idea if we could start a garden in September. But the stores were still selling seeds and potting soil in early fall and the temps sure felt like it was high summer. So why not try?

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We have early girl tomatoes, cherry tomatoes, cilantro, carrots and basil.

We keep the pots outta the way of torrential rains. They’re doing well. And will probably be making oodles of tomatoes just in time for us to leave for Christmas. Haha

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Puerto Rican Spanish 101

My spanish studies didn’t equip me with the colloquialisms of Puerto Rican Spanish .

I learned Spanish in high school from a Cuban.
My kid’s babysitters were Mexican and Columbian.
I traveled to Spain four times and practiced my Spanish there.

So in the two plus months I’ve been here, here are the differences I’ve picked up:

Banana = guineo
Peanut = mani
Beans = habichuela
Refrigerator = Nevera
Hamburguesa = hamburger
Drinking straw = sorbete

Ice cream = mantecado (but I’ve seen helado too)
Snack= merienda

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I bought these from D’s school (grown on the property). I learned the word from his teacher, and wrote it (incorrectly) right on the banana to remember it

And since colors can vary by country:
Pink = rosa
Brown = marron
Purple = violeta

Oh and don’t say S’s

Buenas Dias= buen dia

Gracias = gracia

dry erase board in my kitchen

dry erase board in my kitchen

And speak veryfastandmusheverythingtogether.
Even a Columbian man I met here says they speak fast and it took a while for him to understand. Great.

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Halloween – no mani

My astronaut and robot

My astronaut and robot

The Halloween hype lived up to my expectations.  There was a wonderful mood in the neighborhood as everyone prepared for Halloween trick or treating. Decorations popped up the afternoon of the 31st (and were taken down on Nov 1!)

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Our next door neighbors offered to let us walk around with them. Thanks! As we waited for them to finish getting ready, Trevor and I were both feeling a little bashful when we realized we had no idea how trick or treating worked here.

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Back in Wisconsin? Well in Madison if you had your front porch light on, your doorbell was fair game to ring.  In Wauwatosa when I was a kid, Trick or Treating was from 1-4pm on the Sunday before Halloween. Everyone’s doorbell was game.

There are no doorbells here. None.

As it turns out, the people giving out candy set up shop outside on their driveway or front stoop. This makes thing so much easier! You have no worries if you are bothering someone by banging on their door. And there is less walking for the candy-getters. love it. It’s much more of a welcoming and party atmosphere instead of ‘everyone for themselves’ feeling back in Madison. People were more apt to stop and talk.

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Trick or Treat
Halloween
Dame dulces
No mani

The last part means: give me candy, no peanuts.  haha It doesn’t rhyme as much as our old little ditty did:

Trick or Treat
Smell my feet
Gimme something
Good to eat

Gah! Did we actually say that? I think just to our friends.

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This guy was very friendly and had a great set-up

Anyway, one ‘haunted’ house was all decorated and let people in. It was a bit too scary for Lil’ P, so we scampered out quickly.

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Mr. D was ill, but got a kick giving out candy.

 

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